I tried to tap into Zia's subconscious, which she felt was a disorder. I have this philosophy of learning from others' mistakes or rather experiences. That's why I ask so many questions, not for their sake but for my own.
Irig: how busy are u ?
Zia: not at all :)
Irig: kuch gyan chahiye tha, about post relationship SOPs
Zia: :))
mane ?
Irig: mane ?
Zia: I mean post relationship SOP bole toh
Irig: Standard operating procedures
Zia: hmmm....depends on how badly does it effect u ...:)
Irig: Suppose the effect is very bad
Zia: Two ways .. think so much that u get bored of thinking
That happened to me
Irig: To me too
Zia: Or else don't think at all... and deal with it when you are in a better position to
Irig: hmm
what about communicating once in a while
Zia: hmm that can be quite chaotic
Irig: why
Zia: pata theres a point when you finally know you are over it
uske baad is chill warna otherwise can be chaotic
Irig: ya
Zia: mere liye chaotic ho raha tha talking
Irig: What if the opposite party insists on talking
Zia: hmmm
Irig: frenship n all tht stuff
Zia: depends ... quite lucrative actually
Irig: why
Zia: never works yaar
mane slowly u'll start missing all tha
Irig: ya
Zia: So after a while u'll want to get back together
Irig: hmm
Zia: isse achcha hai wat is over is over and stand le lena chahiye
mane very tough but karna padta hai
Irig: I think u r right
Zia: There's always a chance ... that either you get over ...coz u get bored of the repeated "emotional chaos" so
that feeling goes
but i still think its better not to talk
Irig: hmm
chaos can be reinvigorated though
Zia: haan
Irig: How about getting in touch after a few years
when you are finally settled n all
Zia: That i guess is okay
Zia: pata the only point is getting over that feeling
Irig: I agree
Zia: mane it can happen overnight bhi
Irig: but does a comparison occur in a new relationship ?
Zia: yeah :)
sad side of affairs
Irig: How do you deal with it
I mean how should one deal with it
Zia: hmm .. shuru mein u'll long for the previous one ( if u r not over that one yet )
else current one zyada sahi lagta hai anytime
Irig: ok
Zia: par don't be in love with 2 ppl at the same time :)
Irig: oh...cant dare that anytime
Zia: :))))))))))
Irig: I guess that was the case for her, though she will never admit that during her lifetime
Zia: yeah
:))))) if it helps.. it must be shit time for her
:)
Irig: No i don't think so
Zia: :) aisa lagta hai
Irig: ? aisa kya lagta hai?
Zia: I mean thats how u think it is
but it must be tough for her
Irig: No i am sure...
it was tough for her to separate
but never tough to make a choice
Zia: choice is not tough
but haan being in love wuth 2 ppl is
abhi bhi she must be thinkin of u when she is with someone else
but that doesnt change things
Irig: ya she must be
I know she'll always think
till her lifetime
Zia: yeah
which doesn't make things easy for her
Irig: I guess she'll be happier thinking about me rather being with me, so i guess it should work fine for her
Zia: haan
vague state
but yeah
Zia: pata nahi
haan hai shayad
problem hai ki love nd relns confuse nahi karna chahiye
Irig: wats the difference ?
Zia: love is unconditional..cliched but thats the way it should be
relationship is a two way thing
Irig: I never understood the difference
the unconditional is all ephemeral
its too inhuman to be unconditional
4 comments:
I think there is a lot of distilled wisdom in this post bradah! lots! Loved ur last three lines.
Keep blogging!
Man I am still trying to figure out is this real? If it is. I will say "Life Goes On".
Move it and Mean it.
good one man...absolutely good one..hope to see many more from u..
P.S i neva knew u cud write this well
Preejush
Giri ... Impressive writing ... Deep thought ... very deep thought!!
Y dont u blog more often?
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